Showing Skin As a Mature Queen: When & How | Prime Prometics

Sensuality and maturity … can we make these two seemingly polar opposite concepts see eye to eye?

Of course we can!

The media simply wants to lure us into thinking we can’t!

Ever since I was a kid I was in awe of the beauty of the Queen of Sweden, Silvia Bernadotte.

And she has aged with an abundance of grace.

But it’s not just grace.

She has retained that feisty seductiveness too.

And I’m here to assure you my friends that this can be the case with you.

Photo courtesy of: The Court Jeweller

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Another great celeb to take inspiration from is Angelina Jolie. I know I know -- we still have that image of buxom Lara Croft of Tomb Raider’s fame, when we think of her. But guess what -- she’s just two years shy of the big 5-0.

The best thing about Angelina is the fact that she doesn’t rely on overt glam to be sensual. It’s a great mix of her natural confidence and well-fitting clothes that do the trick.

Then there’s Tina Turner. Have you seen what she looked like in her seventies, rocking a short dress on stage and doing hip moves that would floor a twenty year old?

Now that is sass!

All of these women are (or were in the case of Tina) sexy in wildly different ways.

Yet, many of us feel that as the skin begins to sag, wrinkles appear, and menopause affects their libido -- that the time for being sexy is over.

Photo courtesy of: Entertainment Weekly

But wake up … because seduction, sultriness, sensuality -- these qualities stem from feminine appeal. And at the end of the day “feeling yourself” is a state of mind.

Here are 9 Prime rules to take into account if you aren’t ready to put away that “rawr” just yet!

Rule No. 1: Sexy Is a Mindset

Only show what makes you feel sexy. If you don’t feel sexy in a short dress, don’t wear it. You will behave awkwardly and that’s what people will notice.

Rule No. 2: Outside the Comfort Zone Takes Practice

Defy rule no. 1. Get advice from friends and/or your partner (if they have an aesthetic mind…perhaps don’t if they wear outfits that make you wonder if they were sleepwalking when getting dressed) to see what looks good on you.

Sometimes you need to challenge yourself to step outside your comfort zone, atleast sartorially.

You can practice walking around at home being the belle of the ball, trying those combos you’d never dare to outside.

By the end of the day, you have to find what works for you— But it’s something that’s been with you for decades. :)

Rule No. 3: Muscle Tone for the Win

Good skincare products, a good diet, certain supplements, exfoliation, and muscle tone can help keep our skin smooth and prevent “sagging.”

For example, our PrimeSkin Magic Repair Serum works on increasing collagen production, healing your skin, and increasing moisture—leaving your skin plump and radiant. It nourishes your skin and skin that’s well taken care of looks sexier.

But if you don’t eat a healthy diet and drink enough fluids, you’re still not giving your skin everything it needs!

Exfoliation further increases circulation and gets rid of dead skin cells, which is important if you want to “get the glow.”

Lovely skin is great, but if you want to show off skin, it helps to have nice muscle tone, too (and it doesn’t matter if you’re slim or curvy—muscle tone is equally important for all of us). You’ll achieve that by working out. And remember that to get ahealthy muscle tone doesn’t require you to become a gym rat.

Rule No. 4: “Partly” Famous

Show off your “best” parts.

While at Prime we’re all about embracing our age, we also appreciate that most of us want our skin to look as gloriously healthy and radiant as possible and that there are areas of our body that look better than others as we age.

We like to put our best foot forward, so to speak. I have varicose veins, so I find a tight fitting long skirt, or a short one with colored tights/stockings more sensual than showcasing my veins.

Likewise, there are parts of our body where the skin tends to sag more than in other areas. That’s nothing to have qualms about, but it’s perhaps not the parts of your body you want to show off when wearing a sexy dress.

When we age, the best areas to highlight tend to be:

Our face (it’s the most important part, always!)
Our shoulders (tend to remain smooth and gorgeous)
Our upper back (usually lovely and toned)
Sometimes: our ankles and calves (some women struggle with swollen feet and legs, but if you have trim ankles, do show them off like a daring Regency lady!)

Rule No. 5: Highlight

Highlight the areas you show off.

How do you do that?

The Face

Let’s start with your face—it’s the first thing people see and what they focus most of their attention on.

A warm smile on a confident woman is all it takes to make most men (and women depending on which way you swing) sit up and take notice.

Start with a good foundation—our PrimeWands are perfect for the job.

You can also highlight your browline and cheekbones using PrimeWand Pearl —we call it your personal spotlight.

Unlike many other highlighters, it’s both subtle and effective. And won’t enlarge your pores.

The Shoulders

As for showing off your shoulders, apply some PrimeWand Nourish to encourage healthy skin and use PrimeWand Pearl to play around with light. You’ll be surprised at what a good highlighter can do to bring attention to your body!

Once you’ve mastered the art of “lighting” your shoulders, put on an off the shoulder or one shoulder top or dress.

The Upper Back

When it comes to your upper back, there are tops that work as “reverse v-neck sweaters” or “reverse cowls” that have a bit of “neckage” (instead of cleavage). The cowl can also go all the way around (in other words: both front and back…this is where it shows I’m not a technical minded fashion writer). I’ve always thought backs are sexy and this is one of the places our musculature can be seen the most.

The Ankles and Calves

There was a time when men swooned at the sight of an ankle as it was the only flesh a woman showed…apart from her face.

Whether you want to wear a skirt that finishes halfway up your calves, or have a tasteful slit in your dress or skirt, there’s no saying men (and women) can’t still swoon over ankles…

Rule No. 6: Sexy is Shapely

Choose clothes that flatter you.

Pick colors that go well with your skin tone and hair color—some clothes will make you “pop,” others won’t.

In fact, wearing a turtleneck that brings out your coloring can do a lot to flatter your face!

It’s not just about colors, but your body shape.

If you have a long graceful neck, a pert derrière, a cleavage to write home about, a slender ballerina body, or curves that would make Marilyn Monroe go green with envy, then show it. Don’t hide behind misfitting clothes (note to self: I really do need to fix my jeans).

Sexy == showing shape.

Rule No. 7: Occasion Specific

Dress for the occasion. The super skimpy ensemble your significant other loves seeing you in, is perhaps not the best for a sophisticated party.

You should always do you—be proud to wear clothes that let your personality shine—but if you feel overdressed or underdressed for something, or simply not dressed for the occasion at all, you usually don’t feel very sexy!

In short, there’s a time and a place for walking around in a negligé and that probably isn’t at the next parenting meeting or knitting club…

Dress the part, but do it your way.

Rule No. 8: Moxie is Sexy

Find your mojo.

No matter what you wear and how good care you take of your skin and body, if you don’t feel sexy inside, nothing will make you look sexy.

So find time to pamper yourself. Feel into your body. Take time to figure out what makes you feel sexy. Embrace your inner goddess (if that’s too hippie for you, just embrace your femininity). It doesn’t matter that you have scars or imperfections of any kind—what people see is how you feel. Look at nudes from centuries past when painters actually painted what they saw and didn’t airbrush it—they all had blemishes, yet looked incredibly sexy.

It’s the same today. While the media might portray 20+ airbrushed women (and even some of the women I mentioned as inspirational have those kind of photos and filters on Instagram), that’s not reality. And if someone looks airbrushed in reality, it’s anything but sexy. It would just come across as…plastic.

You’re not plastic. That’s why you have all those hot emotions inside!